Here we explore the effects of times of change and how the difficult emotions experienced during the gap between the old and the new can be tolerated whilst waiting for the wheel of life to turn.

Wired to Want Certainty…

Life is a continuous journey of change. From birth onwards, we repeatedly face new challenges that contribute to our overall growth. We continue through our whole lives transitioning from one phase to another. However, it’s not always a case of going from ‘A’ to ‘B’, with immediacy and certainty. Some phases can be more challenging than others and can bring with them great discomfort. We are wired to want what’s familiar, because that’s where safety is. Take away that of which we feel certain and, all of a sudden, we find ourselves in an emotional ‘no man’s land’. We are no longer ‘there’ and ‘here’ is unknown and out of sight. [Read more…]

Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) is evident in most clients we, at Anglia Counselling Ltd, work with who present themselves for counselling and therapy.

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Penni Osborn, Associate at Anglia Counselling (Newmarket), offers counselling and therapy support to those experiencing the menopause and who may be struggling with both the physical and emotional symptoms. In this post, she shares her insight and thoughts about the menopause and how it can, for some, be the harbinger of positive new beginnings. [Read more…]

Does anyone in the room right now feel a little stressed? Stress is the key factor that leads to the development of nerves, overload, or anxiety. A short guest author post for your consideration. [Read more…]

With an ever-growing awareness and use of the term ADHD there is an increase in individuals questioning ‘if’ they might have some of the associated traits, and whether those traits are impacting on workplace productivity and their relationships at home. [Read more…]

The term “narcissist” typically refers to someone who is both self-absorbed and emotionally distant. Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a serious mental illness after all, and should be diagnosed by a trained mental health professional. [Read more…]

The narcissist – and the recipient of narcissistic personality disorder behaviours both behave the way they do primarily because of the brain chemicals (Neurotransmitters) that drive their respective behaviours. Read on to learn more. [Read more…]

Do you know how to describe your emotions? Can you put words to the way you feel when you’re angry, sad, or happy? If not, don’t worry – you’re not alone. Many people find it difficult to articulate their feelings. [Read more…]

Receiving the message, in childhood, that your feelings don’t matter (in whichever way this message was relayed), can lead to an adulthood of being unable to connect with your ‘self’, others and the world around you. When our emotional experiences are dismissed, ignored or simply not encouraged during childhood, we intuitively shelve this important part of ourselves. We wall off our feelings, stop believing in them, stop listening to them and, in losing our connection with them, we lose belief in ourselves. [Read more…]

There is a growing recognition of PTSD thanks in part to an increase of knowledge and efforts to de-stigmatise mental health challenges. If you are struggling with heightened emotions, and behaviours you regret, do source support from a local therapist who is skilled at The Rewind Technique or Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR). It is important to note, PTSD is not amenable to talking therapy alone. And how long since your trauma was experienced is unimportant as long as it is around or more than 6-weeks! [Read more…]