In a series of three posts, Penni shares her knowledge of some of the underlying reasons for anxiety. Taken from different schools of psychology as well as her own anecdotal experience, Penni introduces some fundamental perspectives on where anxiety may originate, so that those who endure can add a ‘because’ to their experience, opening up the opportunity to heal the cause and so reduce anxiety. Here’s the first post…

Drivers

In the school of psychotherapy called Transactional Analysis (or TA for short) it is suggested that for most of us, our autonomy is under the influence of a concept known as ‘Drivers’. Drivers are said to develop during childhood and are the internalized messages of our parents or caregivers that we learned in order to stay feeling ok. Because these messages were absorbed very early on, they tend to be quite deeply rooted and often outside of our conscious awareness, but it is possible to notice them through our behaviours. There are five Drivers in total. Here’s what they look like: [Read more…]

In this post, Penni Osborn, resident Counsellor and Therapist for adult individuals at Anglia Counselling, takes a look at three defined parenting styles and how they may impact the child.

Background

In the 1960’s, the research of clinical and developmental psychologist Dr Diana Baumrind led her to define three types of parenting styles; authoritative, authoritarian and permissive. Below we take a look at Dr Baumrind’s three styles and their possible impact on the child:-

Authoritative

Considered the best of all the parenting styles, the authoritative approach combines nurture and validation with rules and discipline. The authoritative parent is considerate of the child’s feelings and opinions and allows them to make their own decisions, but within firm, defined limits. They explain consequences and set strong boundaries. This type of parent typically uses positive discipline – rather than harsh punishments – through rewarding and reinforcing positive behaviour. [Read more…]

In this post, Penni explores research that links diet to mental health and how dietary changes may have positive outcomes for those who experience the symptoms of anxiety.

Over the last ten years or so, scientists have been uncovering more and more links between what we eat and our mental health, with most studies focusing on the link between depression and the gut. In more recent years, however, expert attention has been given to expanding this concept and how more mental health conditions, including anxiety, could be in some way linked to what we eat and therefore treated through dietary changes. [Read more…]

In this post, Penni Osborn, Counsellor and Therapist at Anglia Counselling (Newmarket), shares with us the Window of Tolerance; what it is, how stress can take us out of it and suggestions as to how we can get back within our own, unique ‘windows’ and thus restore calm and boost our ability to cope.

What is the Window of Tolerance?

The Window of Tolerance is a concept created by Dr Dan Siegel that can be described as the ‘optimal zone’ of nervous system arousal. When we are rational, emotionally balanced, flexible, responsive and able to successfully manage life’s day to day challenges without getting too ruffled, we can be said to be operating within our Window of Tolerance. [Read more…]

In this article, we’re exploring how counselling and legal support services work hand in hand during a separation.

A divorce or separation is rarely simple and separation agreement solicitors are among those calling for more comprehensive support networks for those who find themselves struggling to cope during this difficult time.

During a separation it’s important to equip yourself with the right legal and emotional support. In this article, we’re looking at how counselling and legal support work hand in hand in separation cases. [Read more…]

In this article, we’re explaining the crucial role of mental health counselling in family law matters. Family law proceedings are often emotionally charged and complex, involving intricate dynamics that can significantly impact the wellbeing of individuals involved.

Recognising the intricate interplay between legal matters and mental health, the role of mental health counselling becomes paramount in navigating the complexities of family law. This article delves into the crucial significance of mental health counselling in family law matters, often handled in line with family law solicitors, shedding light on the holistic approach necessary for the overall health of individuals and families.

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In this article, we’re looking at how mental health counselling eases the challenges of divorce in 2024.

Divorce is a life-altering event that brings about significant changes, both emotionally and practically. The dissolution of a marriage often involves complex emotions, legal processes, and adjustments to a new way of life.

Amidst these challenges, mental health counselling emerges as a crucial support system, providing individuals with the tools to navigate the emotional roller coaster that accompanies divorce. Between counselling professionals and Cardiff divorce solicitors, separated Welsh Families can receive all the help needed to get through a difficult time. [Read more…]

In this, her latest post, Counsellor and Therapist Penni shares with us some thoughts about where denied emotional needs may reside and how we can reconnect – and respond effectively – to them.

Unconscious Self-Sabotage

Many are familiar with the term “self-sabotage” – meaning to get in our own way and prevent ourselves from achieving our goals and fulfilling our hopes and dreams. Not always a conscious choice, self-sabotage is often driven instead by the unconscious – the part of our psyche that operates outside of conscious awareness – that can leave us confused as to why we have said or done something that is completely opposed to our conscious choices, wishes and perhaps, our best interests. [Read more…]

This wonderful introduction to mindfulness is by guest author Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW who is a psychotherapist and author of Shortcuts to Inner Peace. 

It’s tempting to think that you need the tropical beach, the hammock by the lake, the walk in the woods, the yoga retreat or the special meditation cushion in order to feel the “ahhhhh” of inner peace. We all have certain props or places that we use to jump start that special sensation of anchored contentment. [Read more…]

When Can It Be Helpful To See A Counsellor?

Thousands of years ago, when our ancestors lived in tribal communities, they would gather around the campfire and tell stories about their experiences, receiving comfort and support from the community and perhaps words of wisdom from their elders. Human life has changed significantly since then, but our need for comfort, validation and guidance still remains. Like our ancestors, these needs can often be met by family, friends or colleagues, but at other times there may be reasons why we do not seek the support of those around us. Perhaps well-meaning advice hasn’t quite hit the mark, or maybe there is a desire not to burden others. Perhaps there is a sense that others simply won’t ‘get it’, that we will be negatively judged, or we prefer to just keep ourselves to ourselves. It is in these instances that time spent with a Counsellor can be really beneficial.

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