Are you ready for the fight? Who are your supporters? Who’s in your corner when you have a fight on your hands?
With the boxing metaphor, your ‘seconds’ are those in your corner who have your interests, success, and welfare in mind. They are there to help you prepare for a future fight, they are there during a fight and are there after the fight.
Who are the people who provide the encouragement to you? The ‘you can do this’ response when you most need it? You may be:
- about to embark on a new relationship
- party to a relationship that has run its course
- about to start a new venture or change jobs
What about that ‘idea’ you have? Is anyone saying, “Yeah, go for it!”?
Who are your naysayers? Who do you need to consider if you really need to be asking the question of, or listening to, when they never fail to deliver the ‘can’t do that‘ response? It’s often a worthwhile exercise identifying your supporters, and the role they might play in your ‘corner’.
Grab a sheet of plain paper – draw 3-4 circles:
- Starting with a small circle, in the centre. This represents “you”.
- The second circle out is reserved for those you trust with your innermost thoughts and most intimate concerns. Write their names in here.
- The third circle is for those you may turn to for things other than mentioned for the second circle.
- Further circles, furthest away from the centre, are for professional supporters, colleagues etc. You decide.
The most important people will be closest to you, at the centre of the page! When you are feeling ‘less than’, or anxious – it’s worth reminding yourself if you are really all alone!