“Philip” gets up every morning determined to do all the things he promised himself he’d do yesterday and ends most days frustrated and fed up because he’s not making any progress. Phil’s wife has a stressful job and sometimes needs a lot of support; their one year old son is just like most babies and, rewarding though it is, takes a lot of time and energy.
When Phil does have some time to himself, he can’t concentrate. He wastes time on things that aren’t important and beats himself up because he’s not keeping his promises to himself or his family. He’s sleeping poorly, lacking in creativity, tolerance, and losing the ability to make decisions that work out.
He works all the time, hardly ever relaxes but still makes no progress. He finds himself blaming his wife and son for his frustration with himself. He knows things need to change but is mentally and physically exhausted and really doesn’t know what to do to make things better.
The situation of “Philip” and his wife are real. The roles could easily be reversed and unfortunately, just like thousands of people leading a company or running their own business, they end up with broken relationships and a sense of defeat and failure as well as financial and emotional destruction.
Does it need to be this way?
How might it feel to wake more refreshed, to notice your family before enjoying – rather than tolerating – the journey to work? How might it be to reduce the ‘noise’ in your head and clear unhelpful mind-clutter that predisposes you to react inappropriately to stimulus – and defeat yourself before committing to decision making processes you undertake at home and work?
Many of us live in the past or future; it’s a fact! We re-act based on our past where we may have had negative results – and we fret about future outcomes the same way, often procrastinating because of the fear of previous experiences. With a little training and guidance you can re-learn to be present, ‘here and now’ and less likely to react inappropriately to the daily stimuli that is making you angry, irritable and frustrated.
This is no black art!
Some simple guidance, on a one-to-one basis, for an hour a week for just as long as you derive benefit – then you can fly your own way with your new found clarity and peace of mind.
Write or call now, to discuss your first appointment, when you seek improvements with the following:
- reducing the mind-chatter (monkey-mind, busy mind)
- reducing pressure, improving personal performance and decision making
- creativity and access to greater thinking for innovation and opportunity
- improving relationships at home and work
- returning to a life of being the only place you really can be – present – in the ‘here and now’
Bob Brotchie is a counsellor, mindset consultant and creator of Conscious Living by Design™. He writes for Anglia Counselling, is featured on various other websites and introduces us to many guest writers all covering topics related to mental health and wellbeing.
Bob provides bespoke counselling services to clients in the privacy and comfort of a truly welcoming environment at his Anglia Counselling company office, located near Newmarket in Suffolk, England. Bob also provides professional online counselling, for local, national, and international clients. The therapeutic models offered are bespoke to the client’s needs, especially those in receipt of 'childhood emotional neglect' (CEN), whilst integrating a mindful approach to psychotherapy and cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) principles. For clients experiencing trauma and/or phobia, Bob offers EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing).