Have you ever thought, unromantic as it is, how looking for that new relationship can be very similar to ‘job hunting’? (ouch!) We want to ‘sell’ ourselves and be viewed as trustworthy and pleasing to that someone who just might become the significant other and with whom we might have a future. Unlike the job hunt though, we want to be lucky in love.
But is it really luck that will see you succeed?
In preparing for our search we can do a number of things:
- focus on our strengths
- attend to our appearance
- learn to say the ‘right’ things
The catch is that we often allow negative thoughts to creep in and these are usually based on past experiences:
- You may fear being passed over.
- You may still be recovering from your last relationship.
- You may think this will simply not last.
If you worry you might attract more of the same, or find you always seem to attract the wrong partner, there is a reason for this! We unknowingly attract less than nourishing relationships based on what our subconscious can be telling us. Indeed, your subconscious can sabotage each and every relationship until you come home to yourself – the real you!
However, I provide an innovative service – designed exclusively for you and your search:
- Understand past relationships and let go of residual negative thoughts and emotions.
- Realise and find your confidence – in you.
- Establish what you really want and deserve.
- Set you on a path to meeting the person you really want.
Call for more details of this 2 hour appointment – it can be held in person or online and always in confidence. You will learn why things have been the way they have, how to dig deeper into who you really are, and how to let go of anxieties of the past… and future.
Give yourself the gift of discovery and success – book now, to clear your mind and get that ‘real’ relationship you deserve – and is waiting to be found by you.
I also provide other services offered are for couples, relationships, individual counselling and coaching.
See also: Tom & Sarah – Looking for Love
Bob Brotchie is a counsellor, life coach and creator of Conscious Living by Design™. He writes for Anglia Counselling, is featured on various other websites and introduces us to many guest writers all covering topics related to mental health and wellbeing.
Bob provides bespoke counselling services to clients in the privacy and comfort of a truly welcoming environment at his Anglia Counselling company office, located near Newmarket in Suffolk, England. Bob also provides professional online counselling, for local, national, and international clients. The therapeutic models offered are bespoke to the client’s needs, especially those in receipt of 'childhood emotional neglect' (CEN), whilst integrating a mindful approach to psychotherapy and cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) principles. For clients experiencing trauma and/or phobia, Bob offers EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing).