Why is writing an integral part of life, for some more than others? Writers express their emotions, feelings and thoughts on a daily basis. Tim, our resident guest post author, covers expressing ourselves through writing and what it can achieve.
What’s the point of writing down how you feel? There’s not a huge lot of point unless you use it as well for yourself as you can.
Some folk write diaries. Unless you’re about to publish them, and are important enough to find a publisher who wants to read your maudlin and mundane stuff, the only use for them is to let your heirs and executors know what you had for tea on 27 January 1987, or that you are desperately in love with Penelope Pitstop, or, if you are brave enough, that something really troubled you while you were alive.
That’s a bit rubbish, really.
There is a point in writing down stuff, but it has to be used. And that means you have to use it. But some of it’s stuff you can’t share with your nearest and dearest. They might find it rather upsetting to discover, suddenly, that there’s something that both stresses you out and is, or you think is, against all they stand for.
So, how do you use it?
You could always start your own blog. ‘The Magnificent Maudlin and Mawkish Murk Murmured Mellifluously by Muriel’, and, since your name is Millicent, Myfanwy, Matthew, or Michael no-one will know it’s you. So, that’s safe from the gaze of friends and family. Yup, that’s a start.
Unfortunately it’s also safe from finding a readership. Who will ever read the ‘7M Blog’, which, while it’s a far better name for it, is well hidden in the deepest recesses of t’internet?
You do want readers.
“A trouble shared is a trouble halved.” Now that is a load of old something that rhymes with ‘rowlocks’, coz it ain’t so. There is a point to sharing. Well, there’s more than one.
The first point is that sharing something with anonymous strangers helps the issue you’re writing about get into its proper perspective. Write about it for others and you start, little by little, to see the boundaries of the issue and gain a smidgen of an insight into how you might start to make it less important in the way it ‘has power over you’.
The second point is that, if you are very lucky coz it’s so rare, someone else will write a comment below your impressive prose. It might not be relevant to your words, but it will be relevant to the person who wrote it. When you read what they write it can help put your own issues into a better perspective.
That second point is interesting. For a moment, be that second person.
What if you could find a sensible place to put your own stuff as a comment, a place where it would be welcome, and which already has sufficient reputation to have enough readers for it to be found, be read?
See that comments field?
Ok, choose a pen name. And have a crack.
Why are you doing this?
Loads of reasons. The best is to make you feel a little better. The next best is to make a couple of other people feel a little better.
The key thing is that you are letting a few complete strangers know something, for your own gloriously selfish reasons.
To find out more about 13-year-old Tim, his older self has published Queer Me! Halfway between Flying and Crying
Bob Brotchie is a counsellor, mindset consultant and creator of "Conscious Living by Design"™. He writes for Anglia Counselling, is featured on various other websites and introduces us to many guest writers all covering topics related to mental health and wellbeing.
Bob provides bespoke counselling services to individuals and couples in the privacy and comfort of a truly welcoming environment at his Anglia Counselling company office, located near Newmarket in Suffolk, England. Bob also provides professional online counselling, for local, national, and international clients. The therapeutic models offered are bespoke to the client’s needs, especially those in receipt of 'childhood emotional neglect' (CEN), whilst integrating a mindful approach to psychotherapy and cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) principles. For clients experiencing trauma and/or phobia, Bob offers EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing).