How Looking After ‘You’ Looks After Your Success in Life
Do you take care of your emotional wellbeing? What does that even mean?
If you fail to take care of your emotional wellbeing, it is easy to exist in a routine zombie-like state, wanting for ‘something’ but unsure of what it even may be. You will fail to find consistent focus and end each day stressed and resentful; sleeping poorly before burning straight through the next day.
On the other hand, if we choose to grow our emotional self, our resilience will also grow for the challenges we all must face. Hence, improving our performance in life and be open to creativity, innovation and opportunity… all with less effort! Wanting diminishes and – paradoxically – that which you welcome into your life appears to come to you much more easily.
You pull less and get more!
How many times have you achieved an objective, a perceived success, only to move straight onto the next target?
Can you afford to let your performance, and success, be hampered by the incessant thoughts of the past and the worries of the future? It’s all too easy to completely consumed by the barrage of things to attend to on the road to our success, because you can – you will!
We are human beings, rather than human doings. In the always ‘doing’ mode, we often neglect our ability to be kind to ourselves. This is when our resilience can be eroded, stage by stage until ‘pop’!
Often, there is little obvious warning when we are about to reach the end of our emotional tether. Others will be noticing the changes in behaviour, like persistent irritability, intolerance, failing to look – really look – into the eyes of our partners and children.
Here is what we must all understand in our life’s journey… With clarity of mind and relaxed, appropriate thinking, this more-sensory and present way can become the new norm. You can achieve more by working your mind less!
Looking after your emotional wellbeing is truly about focusing on success, rather than the way emotional health welfare is often regarded – namely as a perceived failure. It is necessary to understand that whilst your physical wellbeing is relatively easy to see (gaining the pounds, being out of breath, etc.), your emotional wellbeing will determine how you manage your physical health and perceptions in the years to come.
By growing your self-compassion and taking care of the here and now, you remove much of the unnecessary noise in your life as you move that much closer to success!
Bob Brotchie is a counsellor, mindset consultant and creator of Conscious Living by Design™. He writes for Anglia Counselling, is featured on various other websites and introduces us to many guest writers all covering topics related to mental health and wellbeing.
Bob provides bespoke counselling services to clients in the privacy and comfort of a truly welcoming environment at his Anglia Counselling company office, located near Newmarket in Suffolk, England. Bob also provides professional online counselling, for local, national, and international clients. The therapeutic models offered are bespoke to the client’s needs, especially those in receipt of 'childhood emotional neglect' (CEN), whilst integrating a mindful approach to psychotherapy and cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) principles. For clients experiencing trauma and/or phobia, Bob offers EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing).