Are you full and complete? Do you feel ‘alive’ and so grateful to be so? Are you where you want to be? And if not… could you, as with any self-limiting beliefs… let it go?
In My Prison (I so want to be free!)
I openly share with you what I share with clients in whom I observe, the way I also was. I spent the first four decades, or so, wanting things to be different!
When I get my driving licence… it’ll be alright, I thought; When I get a partner… life will be complete; When I get the job or promotion… it’ll be great! (It never was!)
None of the above, and so many besides, brought me what I thought I needed to be content. None of the above released me from being where I did not want to be. Sure, there was pleasure, even pride at times, but it was nothing more than a ‘quick fix’, destined to be just another target hit before looking at the next “It’ll be alright when…!
So, how did I get out of prison? I started looking in the right place – (there is only one!). Do you know where that might be? Here is a fantastically interesting view from the author at Wait but Why. Be advised, the content can mess with your mind! Another area holding people back is an inability to ‘let go’ and forgive…
Holding onto Anger (Drinking the poison – expecting the other person to die!)
Forgiveness is an alien thing for many, yet, when we can rationalise about what we think we’ve lost, how we believe we have been besmirched, cheated on, treated disrespectfully – we could choose to consider just how is holding onto the pain serving us, and affecting the other!
Let go of the limiting belief that “I cannot live in peace until that individual has paid for…” It’s not about being ‘rolled-over’. It’s more about self-compassion. Or else, I will continue to be hurt each and every time I remember in a way that provokes strong emotions. Here is a link to an amazing organisation that educates what is possible around forgiveness!
Permission to ‘Be’
“Who are you?” I often ask clients. The answer will usually be along the lines of what they have heard from others. I am ‘nice’, easy to get along with, angry, loving, depressed… (Many of which are observations made by others; judgements, if you will.)
Quite often individuals recognise they are carrying what they have been taught, by their parents or significant others during their formative years – and certainly there is some truth to that. But, “who you are” isn’t what others say or you think of you! (Or, what you think they think of you!)
It’s a tricky one, but a crucial question, nonetheless.
A ‘Special’ Poem for You!
If you never read poems, do read this one! I’m certain this poem has been read by millions, yet, I heard it for the first time just last week at a yoga workshop (thanks Chrissie!)… and I thought “If I hadn’t read it – there must be others too!” I also read it aloud for a workshop I was co-running – and the response was perfect! (It’s for men too!)
She Let Go
She let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go.
She let go of the fear. She let go of the judgements. She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head. She let go of the committee of indecision within her. She let go of all the ‘right’ reasons. Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go.
She didn’t ask anyone for advice. She didn’t read a book on how to let go. She didn’t search the scriptures. She just let go. She let go of all of the memories that held her back. She let go of all of the anxiety that kept her from moving forward. She let go of the planning and all of the calculations about how to do it just right.
She didn’t promise to let go. She didn’t journal about it. She didn’t write the projected date in her Day-Timer. She made no public announcement and put no ad in the paper. She didn’t check the weather report or read her daily horoscope. She just let go.
She didn’t analyse whether she should let go. She didn’t call her friends to discuss the matter. She didn’t do a five-step Spiritual Mind Treatment. She didn’t call the prayer line. She didn’t utter one word. She just let go.
No one was around when it happened. There was no applause or congratulations. No one thanked her or praised her. No one noticed a thing. Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go.
There was no effort. There was no struggle. It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad. It was what it was, and it is just that.
In the space of letting go, she let it all be. A small smile came over her face. A light breeze blew through her. And the sun and the moon shone forevermore.
She Let Go, by Ernest Holmes (1887 – 1960)
As relevant today as it was then!
If you’d like to learn how to get out of your self-limiting prison – and move forward from whatever may be holding you back, let me know.