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Failure: A Necessary Evil

by Bob Brotchie

Have you reached a stage in life yet, whereby you truly believe a perceived or actual failure is an opportunity to learn? Sure, that statement is a cliché. Yet, we still concern ourselves incessantly with succeeding every time in everything we do.

Okay, to be fair this is no bad thing. After all, we would be foolish to be a success at making the same mistakes time and again but we put ourselves under such huge pressure to impress, to look good or even perfect!

It has long been recognised in the US, that as a business owner/leader, you lack credibility until you have ‘failed’. Americans recognised the benefits of failure in others of having walked that fire and to have learned; done the apprenticeship if you will.

Life is a journey of daily learning from the moment you’re born, to the last cognitive thought you have. Look at the resilience and tenacity you unwittingly demonstrated when learning to ‘toddle’! You fell – you got up. Consider the way your behaviour has altered in so many aspects of life to accommodate what was once a ‘failing’. The kind of arguments you got into; what was once so important and is now less so.

Developing and growing awareness of risk and mitigation in our work, play, and relationships helps us to recognise opportunities also. When did you last ‘see’ the opportunity to share something you had learned because of a ‘failed’ action?

Do you get over a mistake in reasonable time – and then recognise it for what it is, the opportunity to have done with that mistake and bank it in your knowledge portfolio?

I’m realistic enough to know that being involved in an error, failing or mistake – call it what you will, is less than pleasant in the emotions it elicits. But seriously considering, no matter how impactful the cost at the time, the knowledge growth achieved is truly the most empowering and uplifting positive of experiences.

So here’s the other cliché so richly associated with ‘failures’. It’s not that you fall, but how often you pick yourself up.

About the author
Bob Brotchie
Counsellor and Founder at Anglia Counselling | Personal Website

Bob Brotchie is a counsellor, life coach and creator of Conscious Living by Design™. He writes for Anglia Counselling, is featured on various other websites and introduces us to many guest writers all covering topics related to mental health and wellbeing.

Bob provides bespoke counselling services to clients in the privacy and comfort of a truly welcoming environment at his Anglia Counselling company office, located near Newmarket in Suffolk, England. Bob also provides professional online counselling, for local, national, and international clients. The therapeutic models offered are bespoke to the client’s needs, especially those in receipt of 'childhood emotional neglect' (CEN), whilst integrating a mindful approach to psychotherapy and cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) principles. For clients experiencing trauma and/or phobia, Bob offers EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing).

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