We’ve all experienced selfish behaviour. Maybe we can even admit we have been selfish too. But is this always such a bad thing?
Putting Things Off
‘Positive’ selfishness can have far reaching and welcoming effects on yourself, and those around you. If you respectfully put off something someone wants you to do, or indeed something you have to do, in order to provide some ‘you’ time, you may create for yourself a little space which can improve your performance and lift your creativity. This is something that will be of benefit to you, and those around you.
Managing expectations of others, and indeed your own, is a crucial component of emotional wellbeing. If you are always putting the wishes of others in front of your own needs, you will simply find yourself becoming less and less tolerant… and more and more irritated; whilst bemoaning your lot. A wonderful book titled ‘Awareness’, by the late Anthony De Mello, expresses this aspect of human conditioning to great effect!
Be Kind to Yourself
It’s so tempting to keep putting others needs before your own ‘because you can’; because you like to feel responsible, or just simply because you haven’t figured how to say ‘no’. There is a world of difference in joining your pals down the pub for the sixth night of the week – and sharing that the task waiting to be done, will be – but maybe just not right now.