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When We Fail – We Grow

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Some of the most distressed individuals I have met over the years have been those – who the rest of us may think – were “darn lucky”. Why? The people I’m referring to are those who have rarely, sometimes never, experienced hardship, disappointment and loss – to name a few.

If we observe some from the group of persons described as “well off”, perhaps middle or upper-class, they are often much derided for being observed as aloof or arrogant, lacking in compassion or empathy. But then, why would they have these traits, where would they have learned of such things?

It's all in the experience... If I have never experienced pain, how can I know it? Click To Tweet

If I have never felt loss, how can I know that the deep pain is temporary and may pass?

If I have yet to experience deep change that was unexpected, how can I trust it will become less ‘new’.

Parents

To be the best, a parent can be… we must allow boundaries to be breached, for our child to fall, for disappointment to occur and expectations to remain unmet – on occasion.

The child who is ‘protected’ from failure may ultimately come to believe any failure is catastrophic!

Impermanence of Life

Life and all its component parts are all in a state of flux or impermanence! Where there is gain, there is loss. Where there is life, there is death! Where perfection is achieved, it will always be closely followed or preceded by imperfection.

Acceptance

Given life is a state of flux; it can be learned to be accepted with equanimity for the pains and the gains.

Balance of Emotions

If we shift to the alternative of over-protectiveness – neglect – this is also devastating to the human organism. Yet, those souls, who suffered neglect, may often become the most caring and giving.

Maslow Said…

The famed humanistic psychologist Abraham Maslow noted that “the most important learning lessons… were tragedies, deaths, and trauma… which forced change in the life-outlook of the person and consequently in everything that he did.”

What events in your life did you come to see as opportunities to grow, to take as gifts?

You may or may not be anything like ‘middle/upper class’, but do you have anxiety over your resilience to cope with change, or emotional pain?

About the author
Bob Brotchie
Counsellor and Founder at Anglia Counselling | Personal Website

Bob Brotchie is a counsellor, life coach and creator of Conscious Living by Design™. He writes for Anglia Counselling, is featured on various other websites and introduces us to many guest writers all covering topics related to mental health and wellbeing.

Bob provides bespoke counselling services to clients in the privacy and comfort of a truly welcoming environment at his Anglia Counselling company office, located near Newmarket in Suffolk, England. Bob also provides professional online counselling, for local, national, and international clients. The therapeutic models offered are bespoke to the client’s needs, especially those in receipt of 'childhood emotional neglect' (CEN), whilst integrating a mindful approach to psychotherapy and cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) principles. For clients experiencing trauma and/or phobia, Bob offers EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing).

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