What Do You See?

Who do you see?

When you look in the mirror, who do you see?

Do you see the role you play at work, the boss, the employee… your title? And if so, what happens if you lose that title, who do you see then? 

Who do you see?

When you see or hear a colleague, an individual in the street, or the bar, or the restaurant. Who do you see? Do you see a weakness? Do you revel in their challenge, emotional or physical… and you are feeling just fine!

Do you see?

Do you see the person, the individual who is happy, who is sad, is angry or scared – and remember that that person is you, has been you… or will be you?

  • An emotional or physical disability, permanent or temporary, is with that person, that individual. It is not THE individual, THE person?
  • A person carrying a challenge needs to be a person, to be seen as a person and to be treated as a person. No more, no less! A person carrying a challenge rarely needs sympathy!

Give him or her space and time, or care and compassion. But most of all respect them for who they are.

A Brother or Sister, Son or Daughter, Mother or Father, Grandparent, Aunt or Uncle. They might be any of these; could they be you? Stigma in mental or physical health is ignorance.

We have a choice to learn, and to change.

Will you?

It is a successful and courageous person who seeks guidance. Failure is available to those who continue because they fear seeking a listener, such as a counsellor. This is leaving people in pain!

People can be anxious about meeting a counsellor because of the perceived stigma; or because things are not yet desperate enough; they may be perceived as having failed in some way or are weak!

Learn, grow, and be the success you are…

About the author

Bob Brotchie is a counsellor, mindset consultant and creator of "Conscious Living by Design"™. He writes for Anglia Counselling, is featured on various other websites and introduces us to many guest writers all covering topics related to mental health and wellbeing.

Bob provides bespoke counselling services to individuals and couples in the privacy and comfort of a truly welcoming environment at his Anglia Counselling company office, located near Newmarket in Suffolk, England. Bob also provides professional online counselling, for local, national, and international clients. The therapeutic models offered are bespoke to the client’s needs, especially those in receipt of 'childhood emotional neglect' (CEN), whilst integrating a mindful approach to psychotherapy and cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) principles. For clients experiencing trauma and/or phobia, Bob offers EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing).