What is Emotional Intelligence?

And why is ‘EI’ so important for us?

Thinking about how many of us have come to perceive Monday mornings, a new start to the working week for so many; how are our often negative thoughts about this morning serving us? 

Why have we allowed ourselves to start a fresh new week, full of possibilities, with such a downer? Click To Tweet

The Monday ‘Moan’

In resuming my blogging activities, following the most busy of summers, I’m switching the publishing day to Monday’s. When Ian Pegg, my web developer, suggested writing about Monday’s “because so many people are finding their thoughts creating depression” – it was easy to agree, Kudos Ian!

Those ‘Boomtown Rats’

It’s all in the mind!

So,why do we insist on setting ourselves up for a rough start to a new week? #Monday Click To Tweet

It’s very much about these chaps. Culture, habit and ‘conditioning’! We HAVE choices, but in behaving without conscious thought, we find ourselves joining the throng of ‘Monday haters’, because that’s what we have learned and been exposed to – and our cognitive minds just love patterns and repetitiveness.

Back to Emotional Intelligence

There are many different models and definitions of emotional intelligence. Here are two of the best definitions for you, courtesy of EIinstitute.com . And some EI Test evaluations!

1. Mayer and Salovey’s EI model

The original research into Emotional Intelligence was begun by two professors of psychology, John (Jack) Mayer and Peter Salovey, in 1990. Their focus was exclusively on emotions and what we do with them. In 1990, they defined emotional intelligence as:

The ability to monitor one’s own and others’ emotions, to discriminate among these emotions, and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and actions.

In 1997 they produced a 16-step model of emotional intelligence that outlines the developmental progression of emotional intelligence from childhood to adulthood.

2. The GENOS EI model

The Genos model of Emotional Intelligence was developed by Dr Ben Palmer and Professor Con Stough at Swinburne University in Melbourne, Australia. They define emotional intelligence as follows:

Emotional intelligence is the skill with which you perceive, express, reason with and manage your own and others’ emotions.

They identified seven different levels of emotional intelligence:

  1. Emotional self-awareness.
  2. Emotional expression.
  3. Emotional awareness of others.
  4. Emotional reasoning.
  5. Emotional self-management.
  6. Emotional management of others.
  7. Emotional self-control.

Emotional Intelligence is how smart you are about your own and other people’s emotions. Smart emotions make smart people. ~ Rachel Green

There is much more to share with you before we’re done with emotional intelligence, so if you haven’t yet subscribed to receive these posts, please do so and benefit from them waiting for you first thing on Monday morning, getting your week off on the right emotional footing!

Remember to honour your choices about this and every day, thank you for being here.

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Bob Brotchie is a British Counsellor providing private services to clients in the privacy and comfort of a truly welcoming environment at his Anglia Counselling Ltd company office, located near Newmarket in Suffolk (GB). Bob also provides professional online counselling, for international clients around the world.

The therapeutic models offered, are bespoke to the client’s needs (not his) whilst integrating a Mindful approach to Psychotherapy and Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) principles.

For clients experiencing trauma and/or phobia, Bob offers the Rewind Technique which is a rapid process that provides rapid results without re-traumatising the individual. For those seeking greater emotional stability, Bob offers an 8-week online training program which is also available in-person.