Do you think you will consider a counsellor only as a last resort? Why would that be? Perhaps a sense of failure?
Many people feel that to see a counsellor is to admit a failure in some way. Many wait, trying to work out how to overcome the matters hurting them.
It’s a good thing at times, being inquisitive and testing for effect – but left too long without learning kind new ways and mechanisms to softly grow self awareness and compassion for oneself, and we can reach an end point for our amazing resilience against adversity.
I was unsure what would happen, I guess I was anxious.
Might you consider being open to exploring your mind and success instead?
You can choose to meet a counsellor to find a faster, comfortable and more sustainable way to live your life, and not because you need telling; you’re looking to aspire to learn from someone who has a passion for this area of living – and quite likely someone who has walked the fires of life too!
They want to share lessons learned with you out of compassion, rather than ego!
Couples and Relationships
If you are a couple experiencing challenges, those needs of a couple can often be found within the individuals! At assessment on the initial enquiry I might suggest based on the information provided, whether it might be of greater value to be seen individually – or together at the beginning.
Fear of Therapist’s Judgement
A therapist who accommodates the healthy needs of the client without judging them – and offers impartiality, helps the individual explore their potential, offers a dynamic and accepting way and is more useful than one who attempts to make the client fit his or her beliefs or education.
I can express a statement, opinion or view in exactly the same way to two different people yet they are likely to be interpreted differently. My role is to establish this in my communication so that what is said, is what is understood. Until trust has been established, individuals may well wonder if they are going to be admonished in some way. No!
Your counsellor willingly demonstrates how they are in-your corner and raises your awareness of the successes in you, especially in how you seek to make the most of your life and are willing to accept help finding more harmony and balance – and less emotional turbulence – and that this journey is anything other than as a result of failure.
You might ideally seek a skilled, impartial professional, who is non-judgemental and listens. They will guide you when you ask – and can help you explore where you have been, and where you want to be now, at peace with yourself – and others. The most successful individuals seek the views, opinions and experience of others; they were anything but failures before, they learned to grow and accept knowledge from outside of themselves. Are you any less deserving? These are a brief idea of some of my thoughts, but what are your experiences – and thoughts?
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Bob Brotchie is a counsellor, mindset consultant and creator of "Conscious Living by Design"™. He writes for Anglia Counselling, is featured on various other websites and introduces us to many guest writers all covering topics related to mental health and wellbeing.
Bob provides bespoke counselling services to individuals and couples in the privacy and comfort of a truly welcoming environment at his Anglia Counselling company office, located near Newmarket in Suffolk, England. Bob also provides professional online counselling, for local, national, and international clients. The therapeutic models offered are bespoke to the client’s needs, especially those in receipt of 'childhood emotional neglect' (CEN), whilst integrating a mindful approach to psychotherapy and cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) principles. For clients experiencing trauma and/or phobia, Bob offers EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing).