The Benefits of Private Counselling

Counselling is a talking therapy that can help people to deal with a wide range of problems, including anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, relationship issues, and trauma. It can also help people to improve their communication and interpersonal skills, develop coping mechanisms, and make positive changes in their lives. Engaging one of our fee-for-a-service private counsellors means access in the shortest time to high-quality services that are unique and bespoke to you and yours.

If you are considering counselling, or at a deeper level, psychotherapy, CBT, DBT, EMDR, or the Rewind Technique and live or can access our services from Kentford, near Newmarket, Suffolk there are many benefits that you can expect to experience, whether in-person, or online for those further afield – and even internationally.

The Benefits of Private Counselling Offered at Kentford Newmarket Suffolk CB8 7PN

These benefits can include:

Improved mental health and greater resilience for the knocks of life.

Counselling can help you to manage your mental health problems, such as anxiety and depression. It can also help you to develop coping mechanisms for dealing with stress and difficult emotions, such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, employing strategies to have a healthier relationship with your thoughts, feelings, and emotions, leading to more enhanced emotional regulation that can otherwise leave us with actions and behaviours we later regret, such as anger, addictions, and an unhealthy reliance on alcohol, drugs, pornography, and gambling.

Greater self-awareness:

Counselling can help you to understand yourself better and to develop a greater sense of self-awareness. This can lead to improved self-esteem and confidence. Our self-esteem is mostly decided during our core and critical childhood developmental periods by the environment and people charged with our care and education How are parents modelled what relationships appear to look like, and whether we, as the child, felt seen, heard, and respected.

Addressing the legacy of Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN)

When caregivers unintentionally fail to meet their children’s needs, particularly the subtle and yet so important emotional needs of the child, the effects manifest in the adult and his or her relationships.

Here is just one of many powerful examples of how a safety behaviour, created unconsciously by the child shows up in the adults’ behaviours and beliefs, continuing unless addressed through entire adulthood, potentially for life!

The Glass Child

You came to realise at an early age that it would be better to not make a fuss, to fly under the radar, and maybe to be the carer or confidante of the care giver, parentified prematurely in the process people said how “mature” you were, and you took this as a great compliment, holding on thereafter with fierce determination to the one who is now independent of need from and through others.

There are many reasons why this was not ‘seen’; why YOU were unseen. Maybe you had a sibling with some level of disability such as learning difficulty, or chronic condition that required much more attention than you felt you needed, so you stayed quiet, didn’t make a fuss, and began the process of becoming the perfectionist and people-pleaser, unable or unwilling to say ‘no’ to others.

Maybe you were the mediator between adult carers, or being played-off between them to curry favour?

This safety behaviours serves you well and yet is so subtle; you fail to notice in adulthood that it THIS way of surviving is no longer necessary. You feel unable to set healthy boundaries that protect your energy. Without counsel, you continue to say “yes” to others, and “no” to yourself.


Is it really necessary to summon up courage to share what troubles us?

At Anglia Counselling Ltd, service users are usually surprised by the warm welcome and non-clinical rooms in which we do our most important work. Among all the topics we help address we specialise in the recovery of the child and her safety behaviours displayed in adulthood so you can finally meet your own needs, respectfully, while re-growing your self-esteem.

Re-learning to express yourself, assertively, yet appropriately, you can be more free to reduce anxiety and depression, returning to emotional regulation and homeostasis; inner-balance and harmony.


Better relationships

Relationship / marriage counselling can help you to improve your relationships with others, including your partner, family, and friends. It can also help you to develop healthier communication and conflict resolution skills.

Increased coping skills and reducing stress.

Counselling can help you to develop coping skills for dealing with difficult situations. This can help you to feel more in control of your life and to better manage stress.

In today’s ‘all-connected’ digital world the demands for our attention in the workplace and at home can become overwhelming. We can help you establish fresh new strategies to find peace in this frantic world.

Improved quality of life

Counselling can help you to improve your overall quality of life. This can include feeling happier, more confident, and more in control of your life, and the benefits continue to be felt in your physiology too, potentially reducing high blood pressure with Mindfulness techniques, improving the immune system, and reducing the potential for other chronic conditions that may lie in wait for us all.

You can just talk and be heard, and no need to be ‘ill’

If you are struggling with a mental health problem or a difficult life or relationship situation, counselling can be a helpful way to get the support you need. We are Anglia Counselling Ltd, counsellors in Kentford, Newmarket, Suffolk, who can help you to achieve your goals.

Counselling is a confidential service, so you can be assured that your discussions will be kept private. If you are considering counselling, we encourage you to reach out to one of our counsellors / psychotherapists at our Kentford, CB8 7PN, offices. You may be surprised at how much it can help you.

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Managing Director Bob Brotchie – CBT, CEN, Trauma – (PTSD / C-PTSD) EMDR – Couples Work

Associate Penni Osborn – DBT, CEN, anxiety, depression, low self-esteem

About the author

Bob Brotchie is a counsellor, mindset consultant and creator of "Conscious Living by Design"™. He writes for Anglia Counselling, is featured on various other websites and introduces us to many guest writers all covering topics related to mental health and wellbeing.

Bob provides bespoke counselling services to individuals and couples in the privacy and comfort of a truly welcoming environment at his Anglia Counselling company office, located near Newmarket in Suffolk, England. Bob also provides professional online counselling, for local, national, and international clients. The therapeutic models offered are bespoke to the client’s needs, especially those in receipt of 'childhood emotional neglect' (CEN), whilst integrating a mindful approach to psychotherapy and cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) principles. For clients experiencing trauma and/or phobia, Bob offers EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing).