Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) is something observed in so many adult clients I meet every day. Yet, most clients I work with have little idea they may be in receipt of such symptoms; after all, CEN is about the dreadful abuse and neglect sometimes reported in the news, isn’t it? Continue reading “Childhood Emotional Neglect and How the Adult Feels Today” »
Everywhere you turn there is bad news and recent weeks have been no exception.
A 29-year-old man goes on a killing spree in an Orlando nightclub because he can’t come to terms with his sexuality; a two-year-old is attacked and killed by an alligator while on the holiday of a lifetime at Disney World; and closer to home (here in the UK), an MP is stabbed and shot in the street by someone consumed by hatred.
The world can be a frightening place, and if you’re easily overwhelmed by worry and a sense of dread, you aren’t alone. Continue reading “How to Stay Positive in a Negative World” »
This quote, “Pain is Inevitable – Suffering is Optional”, is not easy to attribute to the originator, but some think it may derive from Buddhist traditional philosophy, and it certainly fits, regardless. The quote, and what it can mean, is also one of the most powerful metaphors to be heard and explored in the therapy room. This short post explores for you the reader, some of its potency. Continue reading “Pain is Inevitable – Suffering is Optional” »
Holiday and New Year greetings to all of you and my deepest appreciation for those who continue to engage and support me and my work. Read on for a New Year’s message requiring courage to take action – if this year is to be ‘the one’ where you CAN once again become the best expression of yourself. Continue reading “Your Chance to Shine (Again!)” »
John and Joanna do not know one another. They have never met, and yet the similar symptoms in their lives are as a result of learned beliefs and perceptions. Are you John, or Joanne?
Discovering the cost and value of counselling – or not!
I tend to use metaphors quite a lot with clients, and here is another, linked to a question I ask within the initial registration and assessment of clients I meet for counselling services. Do you experience mind-chatter? Continue reading “Is Your Mind Knocking and the Door is Locked?” »
Because even if I do have challenges (and don’t we all), I don’t want to be considered a failure. It’s not like I’m sick! (Psst! You don’t need to be ill to gain new perspectives.) Continue reading “Who the Heck Needs Counselling Anyhow?” »
The truth is, who wouldn’t sooner fix the car or some other mechanical part of our lives? Who ever heard of a ‘mechanical’ stigma? When the car breaks down or needs attention, we might get emotional about it. The inconvenience, cost, all sorts of judgements but mostly we know it has to be done, and so we bite the bullet. Continue reading “I’d Sooner Fix the Car than the Mind!” »
Why do we need to revisit painful times to find a better today? Is it truly necessary?
After all, we might open a ‘can of worms’!